The most common form of despair is not being who you are.
Sometimes you’re 23 and standing in the kitchen of your house making breakfast and brewing coffee and listening to music that for some reason is really getting to your heart. You’re just standing there thinking about going to work and picking up your dry cleaning. And also more exciting things like books you’re reading and trips you plan on taking and relationships that are springing into existence. Or fading from your memory, which is far less exciting. And suddenly you just don’t feel at home in your skin or in your house and you just want home but “Mom’s” probably wouldn’t feel like home anymore either. There used to be the comfort of a number in your phone and ears that listened everyday and arms that were never for anyone else. But just to calm you down when you started feeling trapped in a five-minute period where nostalgia is too much and thoughts of this person you are feel foreign. When you realize that you’ll never be this young again but this is the first time you’ve ever been this old. When you can’t remember how you got from sixteen to here and all the same feel like sixteen is just as much of a stranger to you now. The song is over. The coffee’s done. You’re going to breathe in and out. You’re going to be fine in about five minutes.
Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people.
Kindness should be the natural way of life, not the exception.
I want something else. I’m not even sure what to call it anymore except I know it feels roomy and it’s drenched in sunlight and it’s weightless and I know it’s not cheap. It’s probably not even real.
Mark Z. Danielewski, House of Leaves
Think lightly of yourself and deeply of the world
Who has not asked himself at some time or other: am I a monster or is this what it means to be a person?
I find many adults are put off when young children pose scientific questions. Why is the Moon round? the children ask. Why is grass green? What is a dream? How deep can you dig a hole? When is the world’s birthday? Why do we have toes? Too many teachers and parents answer with irritation or ridicule, or quickly move on to something else: ‘What did you expect the Moon to be, square?’ Children soon recognize that somehow this kind of question annoys the grown-ups. A few more experiences like it, and another child has been lost to science. Why adults should pretend to omniscience before 6-year-olds, I can’t for the life of me understand. What’s wrong with admitting that we don’t know something? Is our self-esteem so fragile?
How beautiful to find a heart that loves you, without asking you for anything, but to be okay.
Beauty comes in many forms and there is no form more beautiful than you. Just exactly as you are.
"In a lot of ways Piper was my Trojan Horse. You’re not going to go into a network and sell a show on really fascinating tales of black women, and Latina women, and old women and criminals. But if you take this white girl, this sort of fish out of water, and you follow her in, you can then expand your world and tell all of those other stories. But it’s a hard sell to just go in and try to sell those stories initially. The girl next door, the cool blonde, is a very easy access point, and it’s relatable for a lot of audiences and a lot of networks looking for a certain demographic. It’s useful."
Jenji Kohan, Orange is the New Black show creator
even the show writers know that piper isnt as interesting
Glad to see this acknowledged, sad as it is. Good on Kohan for recognizing the status quo and circumventing it.
The human body has always been the central, on-going theme in art. In the 1960s we had happenings such as Fluxus and The Factory. So actual people’s living bodies became part of the art. We decided a long time ago to explore that, as a challenge to hypocrisy. And also for our interests to ask, ‘Where are the boundaries?’ In some cultures you can have six wives and walk around naked, and in others you’ve to be covered head to toe if you’re a woman. It’s arbitrary. Who’s making those rules? People in power. How do they enforce it? Through intimidation and violence. So the body is important as a signifier of an attitude towards how we evolve.
A bad trip? This whole country, this whole world is on a bad trip, friend. But they’ll arrest you for swallowing a tablet.
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